Why would I take dating advice from 3 single women?
I’d much rather go have a visit with my grandparents who have been happily married for almost 59 years and who really understand what love is.
I rarely take true relationship advice from anyone who is not known to me personally, because well. EVERYONE is different. Every single person who walks down the street is different. Do I need to sell this point more? Are some things universal? Sure, why not. But in general, advice needs parameters, specifications.
I can sit here and offer across the board sex advice, as I’ve been known to do via Bend Me Over, or maybe recommend that you let that asshole be a dick down the road instead of in your space, but unless I know a specific situation, I’m spouting platitudes. Platitudes are worth the piece of paper I wipe my ass with. Pretty analogies are so my thing y’all.
Anyways. Can some things hold true? Don’t stalk? He just may not be that into you? If you’re cray, curtail that shit? Yeah, sure. But in general, and we all know — if it’s right it’s right and little will derail that shit. As my lovely friend Amelia says, “one day you’ll find someone who delights you and you’ll delight them and as long as you look at them and think they’re the coolest thing since sliced bread, you’re on the right path.” Totes paraphrased, she may have said half that.
Relationships are work. Yes. But the initial shit? You can’t turn someone to your side if they’re not at least 90% of the way there themselves and vice versa. The rest is just figuring out personalities and how to best mesh lives, but that intangible shit? That’s what will seal the deal. Not whether you didn’t call him for the first 3 weeks, or waited to put out, or whatever arbirtrary rule you make for yourself.
Count your blessings that someone will delight you one day or delights you now and work to be the best human you can be in the meantime. Wait … was that advice? Balls.
