vainglorious

After the age of 21, I’d venture to guess that most of us who didn’t get married straight out of high school probably have obtained “a past.” I, for lack of a better phrase, have made a few mistakes - quite a few I’ve documented here for all prying eyes to see. My biggest fear is that I’ll be judged wholly on things I did before I managed grow up a bit. I never want people to be scared to get involved with me because of my past indiscretions … of which there are many.

Pertaining to relationship pasts though, I’d like to think I’ve never really hurt any of the men I’ve dated/been with/ whatever, but in reality, I have probably done a little damage. We all probably have in one way or another. But what would and should scare someone away? Cheating? Being the other woman/man? Lying? Being promiscuous?

Sometimes your “past” is recent though. And you must confront it and deal with those awkward moments when a former “fun time friend” walks into a bar while you’re trying to hang out/see/talk to someone new. We all usually deal with these things at one time or another, and it ain’t always pretty. But does this confrontation with someone’s past make it easier or harder to deal with? Maybe harder, but the older we get as single people, the more past we acquire and if you aren’t changing cities constantly, you’re bound to run into exes. Especially if you have many… Should this scare someone away more? Or is it good for people to have lots of experience?

I’m not sure what I’m trying to say here … I don’t have a fully formed opinion on this, and wondering how hard is it accepting someone for who they are right this second, not who they were? Older and wiser, sure, but what means someone’s character is inherently flawed? One incident of cheating? A year of promiscuity during youth? Just curious what anyone else thinks…